In a difficult co-parenting dynamic, it’s easy to assume you’re the more evolved one, and that assumption is exactly what keeps you stuck.
This week’s audacious ask came from a woman who wants cordial, drama-free co-parenting with her ex and asked me how to pull it off without getting pulled into his reactivity.
My answer starts somewhere uncomfortable: the commitment to not speak ill of your son’s father. It’s a healing practice for you, your inner masculine, and your father line. And it pairs with a second practice: looking at how often you position yourself as the better parent, the more stable one, the more spiritual one.
Family constellation work places you and your ex on the same line, not in a hierarchy. From that seat, your choices become visible. You can see the bait when it’s dangled, and you can stay trained on what you came to ask for, instead of defending yourself into another round of drama.
Through a simple scheduling conversation that goes sideways, you’ll see the specific move that keeps you with yourself when he changes the subject. If raising your son means staying linked to a man you’d rather not deal with, this is the reframe that changes the practice.
You’ll learn:
[0:00] Introduction
[2:31] The audacious ask about drama-free co-parenting after divorce
[4:06] Co-parenting as a growth crucible the Mom actually chose
[6:04] Resolving superiority and the paradigm of better and worse
[8:13] Family constellation puts her and the ex on the same line
[10:04] Not taking the bait of the drama
[12:17] The line between trusting someone entirely and not at all
- Resources Mentioned:
- Breakup Breakthrough Masterclass | Website
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