EPISODE: 165

June 24, 2026

The Trap of Trying to Fix Yourself

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Can you really “improve” yourself?

I spent years convinced I could save the world from the bad guys, then years convinced I could save myself through deep inner work, coaching, and retreats. What I found on the other side wasn’t a better me. It was a different relationship to my own badness and wrongness, and a suspicion that progress itself might be an illusion.

It’s time we unpack a few things… the good-bad split, why rejecting one pole pulls you straight toward it, and why my sovereign lawfulness journey exposed the same extractive shadow I’d assigned to the IRS.

I’ll share what my daughter said that cracked my activist armor, why I now prize awareness and relaxation over certainty, and what it means to live by spontaneity, curiosity, and the principle of maybe.

If you’ve ever invested in fixing yourself and still touched the nihilistic question of “is this it”, I made this for you.

You’ll learn:

[0:00] Introduction

[2:06] From saving the world to turning the activist lens inward

[5:54] The self-improvement double bind nobody in the wellness industry will name

[8:02] The good-bad split and why we keep attracting what we reject

[11:00] “Mama, you’re afraid of so many things”, the day my daughter broke the spell

[14:16] Why the IRS and the sovereignty movement carry the same vampiric energy

[18:27] What if you’re not actually better than your mom?

[20:58] The villain crown practice and the power of holding “maybe”

[24:39] Why trusting your impulses matters more when money removes every constraint

[28:38] Surrender, the cosmic wink, and trading progress for presence

[33:33] Professional patients, functional medicine, and the loop that leads nowhere

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