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Everyone tells you that you need to be in a community, but what if that was one of the most dangerous things you could do?
This is a solo episode, and I am walking through the arc of my own relationship to community, from Francis Weller’s work on the village we never had, to the small circle of Waldorf mamas in Miami, to the plandemic years when intentional community felt like a lifeline.
A lot of what I chased did not hold. Friend groups fractured over values. The sovereign communities collapsed under interpersonal conflict. Even the online spaces started to feel like surrogate families carrying weight they were never designed to carry.
The tension I keep returning to is this: Community asks for a fixed set of shared beliefs. I am someone who evolves, changes my mind, and drops ideologies when they stop resonating for me. Those two things do not fit cleanly together.
I also share what my friend Alyssa is doing that seems to be working, and why the ache I felt listening to her did not translate into wanting her life.
You’ll learn:
[0:00] Introduction
[2:23] The community wound and why Francis Weller says it haunts us all
[5:00] How I detonated a bomb in my holistic mom group over values
[8:49] Why conscious communities keep collapsing under their own projections
[11:03] The one friend whose thriving community makes me ache with longing
[12:58] The part of me that has zero interest in community at all
[18:33] Ideology-based communities become cults you can be punished for leaving
[21:37] An HOA with nothing in common is somehow even weirder
[23:16] Recurring revenue and digital membership sell community as a false cure
[26:37] The ideological prison distorting how women approach beauty and surgery
[30:33] Tom Cowan on why shared ideology fails without a shared project
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- Own Your Self by Kelly Brogan, MD | Book or Audiobook
The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller | Book or Audiobook - Find more from Kelly:
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