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Eli and Alexandra say most women’s nervous systems will reject a deep, present man on sight.
Most of what gets sold as polarity work falls apart the second you bring it home, into a marriage, into parenting, or into a Tuesday night with bills to pay.
Eli Buren and Alexandra Roxo are two of the very few teachers in this space I trust to talk about masculine and feminine dynamics as something you live, not perform. Eli has been mentored by David Deida since 2004. Alexandra is the bestselling author of F*ck Like a Goddess and Dare to Feel.
I’ve known Eli for about a decade, and he was the one who first told me to be careful about forcing my relationship into the polished version of these teachings.
This conversation goes there. What immature masculine and immature feminine actually look like in a body. Why a deep, present man can feel disarming when your nervous system isn’t trained to receive him. How rupture, repair, and trauma show up inside a real partnership with a child in the next room
There are red flags they want you to watch for in polarity teachers. We name them.
You’ll learn:
[0:00] Introduction
[10:48] Why men’s awareness and presence have become urgent currencies in a virtual world
[24:39] Women reject the deep men they say they want, and Alexandra almost did too
[29:39] How leaning on your looks, job, or competency exposes your immature feminine
[35:23] Translating polarity from the retreat high into paying bills and taking out the trash
[40:06] Bank accounts and breasts: the surface level where most couples get stuck
[49:35] Words kill the polarity, and trauma imprints require more than practice
[1:02:25] What Eli transmits to his daughter through tone, touch, and humming through the belly
[1:10:24] Why “emotionally flexible” describes a mother’s presence better than “regulated”
[1:18:21] The red flags Alexandra and Eli see in other polarity teachers right now
[1:23:42] Blending therapeutic somatic work with polarity practice waters both down
- Resources Mentioned:
- Aware Parenting Method | Website
Find more from Eli and Alexandra: - Eli Buren | Website | Instagram
- Gathering of Forces Men’s Weekend in Topenga, CA, October 2-4 | Website
- Dojo of Awareness Men’s Online Practice Series | Website
- Alchemy of Love (Eli and Alexandra’s three-month online program) | Website
- Alexandra Roxo | Website | Instagram
- F*ck Like a Goddess by Alexandra Roxo | Book or Audiobook
- Dare to Feel by Alexandra Roxo | Book or Audiobook
- Find more from Kelly:
- YouTube: Reclamation Radio with Kelly Brogan, MD
- Instagram: @kellybroganmd
- Website: kellybroganmd.com
- Join Kelly’s monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.
- Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.
- Discover Kelly’s Relaxed Woman System here.
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