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What if shame wasn’t the enemy but the doorway?
In this episode I sit down with my dear friend, pole dance teacher, and new author Wendy Diaz, who writes under the pen name Selene Ashé. She’s just released her first book Diary of a Bad Bitch, a work that blends memoir and erotic nonfiction.
We get into her journey with pole dance as a path of self-expression, the permission it creates for women to explore their sensuality, and the way her writing opens space for honest, vulnerable conversations about sexuality and creativity.
You’ll Learn:
- Why pole dance can feel like an initiation for women
- What it feels like to face waves of shame and discover safety in sensual expression
- The link between childhood innocence and adult erotic energy
- Why female versus male gaze changes everything in dance and performance
- The quiet damage of women judging each other’s expression, and what happens when that shifts
- Why creativity should be treated as a daily priority rather than a side project
- The raw process of writing erotic nonfiction and why using a pen name mattered to her
- What it takes to set the stage for authentic movement and see where the body leads
- The enduring truth that sexuality and pleasure are always available, even after disconnection
Timestamps:
[00:00] Introduction
[07:14] The permission field of pole dance and moving through shame
[13:27] Creativity expanding into tattooing, drawing, and blood painting
[19:04] Female versus male gaze in performance and dance videos
[25:11] Navigating invisibility, fame, and the desire for attention
[31:45] Erotic reclamation, archetypes, and sexual exploration through pole
[37:42] Writing her book and choosing a pen name
[42:51] Building conscious cabaret as a safe performance space
[45:58] Sensuality, sexuality, and the role of slowing down
[54:12] Why pleasure and sexuality are always available
- Resources Mentioned:
- Diary of a Bad Bitch by Selene Ashé | Book
- Fifty Shades of Grey by E. L. James | Book or Audiobook
- Conscious Cabaret | Website and Instagram
- Get Selene’s new book out now: The Diary of a Bad Bitch. True stories of sensuality, self discovery and spiritual alchemy. Available online and at www.seleneashe.com
- You can connect with Selene and her work on Instagram here.
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