EPISODE: 104

April 15, 2025

Can You Be a Feminine Breadwinner?

With Monica Yates

Resources

About Episode

If you’re a stretched-thin boss babe, frustrated wife, or “do it all” mamma who just needs a second for yourself, join Kelly’s Free Exhale Masterclass.

Monica Yates is the author of Becoming Her and an expert in masculine-feminine dynamics, especially how women can embrace their feminine essence while navigating success and relationships.

In this episode, you’re going to learn how Monica balances being the breadwinner in her relationship without feeling like the provider, why healing your relationship with men and other women is essential for stepping into your feminine, what it means to be an empowered submissive and why it requires deep confidence, how societal messaging has made many women feel like femininity is weak, and the importance of acknowledging your own desires without shame.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction  

[03:20] Cycle breaking and redefining femininity

[05:30] How media influences perception of femininity

[07:10] Biological reality of men vs. women

[09:15] Women’s emotional strength vs. men’s physical strength

[11:15] Kelly’s realization of fear towards men

[13:45] Monica’s conflict between wanting love and being a feminist

[15:30] How idolizing her father influenced Monica’s view of femininity

[17:20] Monica’s outward confidence as a form of self-protection

[19:45] How Monica’s first boyfriend helped her realize her true desires

[21:45] Understanding the difference between true confidence and external validation

[23:10] The illusion of safety through control

[25:20] Monica’s perspective on empowered submissiveness

[29:20] Kelly’s experience of relearning her femininity

[31:00] Why safety is foundational to feminine energy

[33:10] The harm of overly rigid definitions of feminine and masculine

[35:50] Monica’s thoughts on victim consciousness

[38:00] How women are addicted to the adrenaline of being the victim

[40:20] The value of men’s protection in women’s lives

[42:30] Monica’s unique dynamic of being the breadwinner but not the provider

[44:10] Managing household responsibilities without losing feminine energy

[46:30] The importance of support in achieving feminine magnetism

[48:10] The value of acknowledging what you desire

[50:40] Why acknowledging your desires is the first step to alignment

[52:15] Monica’s advice on finding your unique version of femininity

[54:30] How to reframe femininity to suit your current life season

Resources Mentioned:

  • Becoming HER by Monica Yates | Book or Audiobook
  • Feminine as F*ck podcast by Monica Yates | Spotify or Apple
  • Cultivating Femininity In Women by Monica Yates | Youtube
  • The 7 Pillars to Becoming HER Masterclass by Monica Yates | Website
  • Monica Yates Health | Website
  • Lead Like a Woman with Andrea Heuston Episode on Embracing the Feminine and the Masculine | Spotify or Apple
  • Reclaim your power, transform your relationships, and step into the life you were destined for. Unlock the secrets to becoming your best self. Order Monica’s transformational new book, Becoming HER, today!
  • If you want to connect deeper with Monica, check out her websiteYoutube, and Instagram.

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